A big story in the adoption world surfaced before the holidays. Russia, specifically Putin, signed a law to ban all adoptions from US parents. It was effective almost immediately. Affecting many potential families. News sources reported approximately 64 families already met and bonded with their child. Now, it's all over.
I won't get into why the ban happened as that can be googled. I want to focus on the feelings as prospective parents waiting for our child in Russia. We haven't bonded or even seen a picture of our future child, so I can't imagine what that families are going through who have. Going through all this to see a picture, meet and bond with your child to be taken away from you because of politics. It's a nightmare. They are dealing with a loss of their child and will potentially never seeing them again. Never knowing what they will be like and having to always wonder.
We initialed freaked out. We thought we would be lumped in with the Americans. Something Canada is a lot of the time. We were worried we would lose everything and have to start over. Thinking the whole last year is a void with nothing but a horrible memory. After the initial shock and reaching out to our adoption agency, we slowly felt a little better with time. It seems passing a bill like this in Canada would take several months, likely well after we are done. So, we plug away. Still waiting for a proposal of our child. That fear is still there that we may lose everything. Luckily, we don't know anything about our child, not seen even a picture which makes it easier to start over if we had to. Easy relatively speaking of course. Better to end now before the bond is made.
People don't understand how little control you have over this. Russia can ban Canadian adoptions, they don't owe us anything. No one does. Basically, we are asking to take one of their children-we have to play along. This action by Russia showed we are simply sheep in this process. We follow what they tell us to do to get what we want. Because of this the fear of them pulling the plug will be there until I am home with my child. Like all parents, you always fear for your child's well being. Well, just because I haven't met my child doesn't mean I don't care. I've thought about all the things I will do to safely raise them and teach them as they get older. I feel the same way as parents now do even though I am not one yet. That started as soon as you start the process. The thoughts of what they will be like, what things we'll do together, trips we will take, etc. has been going on in my head for months, even years.
There was a protest against Putin signing this ban against US adopting Russian children. Many people showed their disagreement with this ban. I am grateful for these people. Thanks you for everyone who has fought against this. We want to do best by our child, just give us a chance to be a parent.
Current Update: still waiting
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