Got court!

After asking for an update we received confirmation of our court date.  We have one week to get there.  I like that there isn't much waiting but I don't like the lack of information we have.  We have no idea when we can see our son or where we are staying.  The previous trip they told you your accommodations and when you can see him.

I am more concerned about getting things booked and seeing my son to worry about court.  I really want to see him.  It will have been close to 11weeks with no contact.

Has he grown?  Does he talk?  They said he would be out of diapers when we see him next and I wonder how that went.  I don't care if he is or isn't out of diapers.  I just want to know how he's doing.  

I think with court being on a Friday it may go more smoothly.  I think the best part of this trip when I look back is when the judge bangs his gavel and says, um.. Something in Russian saying we are his parents.

Still no court date!

It has been 9 weeks since we put forward our paperwork while in Russia.  To this day we still don't have a court date.  We were told which possible day in june, but we shouldn't start booking anything till it's confirmed.  Confirmation is expected two weeks prior to our court date.

So, I am just slowly looking at flights and waiting.  His room is all setup.  We completely transformed a spare bedroom  for our son.  I'm glad it's done, but it just didn't feel quite done.  It's missing him.  It's just far to neat for a 2 year old.  The toys are all put away, clothes in the drawer and the bed is made.  

Since we know he is well taken care of the wait hasn't been horrible.  The most frustrating part is missing getting to know him and him to know us.  The initial bonding during the first visit is likely all for not since he probably won't remember us.  Knowing this sucks.  We are preparing ourselves for the next time he sees us we will be strangers to him and he will cry.

Patience is a critical attribute for anyone going through adoption.  It toughens you up more than you anticipate.  All the work will be 100% worth it and make me appreciate him so much more.  I am determined and ready to be a great dad.

Next step court, but when?

We have now been home for 6 weeks and we are waiting to when we can go back. The next trip is short as its main purpose is to go to court to make things legal. That will take 1/2 day and then we have time to prepare beforehand. We will also visit our son a couple of days.

In terms of time off I am hoping to have this all done within one week. I want to save time for the final trip and maybe even spending time with him when We get home.

The waiting sucks. We have bonded and fell in love with him. We know he will forget us and wonder why we stop visiting him. I perceive He may have trust issues initially because we have left him before.

You are not told much until its time to start booking your trip. Get used to minimal notice and then frantically getting everything in order to go. I believe this time may be easier as I can't imagine there is more paperwork to do.