So, I am just slowly looking at flights and waiting. His room is all setup. We completely transformed a spare bedroom for our son. I'm glad it's done, but it just didn't feel quite done. It's missing him. It's just far to neat for a 2 year old. The toys are all put away, clothes in the drawer and the bed is made.
Since we know he is well taken care of the wait hasn't been horrible. The most frustrating part is missing getting to know him and him to know us. The initial bonding during the first visit is likely all for not since he probably won't remember us. Knowing this sucks. We are preparing ourselves for the next time he sees us we will be strangers to him and he will cry.
Patience is a critical attribute for anyone going through adoption. It toughens you up more than you anticipate. All the work will be 100% worth it and make me appreciate him so much more. I am determined and ready to be a great dad.
It was about 7-8 weeks between when we submitted paperwork until when we got confirmation of our court date, which was maybe a touch on the short side, so I think 9-10 weeks may be about typical. We got confirmation 9 days before our court date - with travel and other things to do in Russia, we had exactly 3 days before we had to have our butts on a plane.
ReplyDeleteWow that's no notice. I think in the end we are getting a week notice.
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