If you ask my wife what she hates about me most she would say when I pick my fingers. Its a nervous habit I think I have always had. I dont even know when I am doing it. The last time we were un russia visiting our son he did this one time when he was scared. Now that we have him he does this often. whenever he is scared, which was fairly often in the beginning. He would stop what he was doing look at his fingers and start picking. My wife would just sigh and say 'oh great'.
The first few days you would be playing and all of a sudden you get the look and the finger pick. This is common. His whole world changed in a blink in an eye and he is just getting used to things and us as mama and papa. The more time you spend the more you understand what triggers the fear. The fear is abadonement my wife tells me. I am behind in reading my adoption books so I will learn more soon.
For the record, my son didnt get the finger picking from me. He got it all on his own with zero influence from me. I tell my wife that and as much as it pains her she knows its true.
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